The last few weeks have been by far the hardest weeks of my life. I have been debating on writing about it here or not, and today while taking a bath I decided it may help to write it all out Instead of keeping the pain inside.
As you know I was diagnosed with postpartum depression and anxiety and OCD. Well since then things have been a tad of a stressful mess around my house. I have read books on how to handle my anxiety and overly sensitive emotions. I have read books on how to make my marriage stronger. I have and am currently reading a book on dealing with my spirited son. You take that and add new medicine, high expectations of the changes I’ve been making, a new baby, the Husband project I was doing, and me feeling like I need to focus and change all my “flaws” as the Dr put it and you get a huge mess with non stop fighting with my husband. We have had the best marriage For 8 years and then this PPD comes and everything changes for the worst. I feel like my life is crumbling before my eyes and there’s nothing I can do to fix it, in fact I feel like all I have done is made it worse. The question is how do I stop.
I feel like a shattered piece of china that all the super glue in the world couldn’t fix. Between all the fights, things have been said that I can’t seem to let go of and he can. He seems to be able to wake up in the morning like nothing happened and I sit here in so much pain and heart broken. He asks why I can’t just let it go and I have no answer. I know that words hurt and I know fights leave cuts but I feel like these cuts aren’t ever going to heal. He told me last night that he thinks I’m no longer in love with him. That felt worse then A swift chick to the chest. I sat and cried harder then I have ever cried and he sat on the couch with no emotion in his eyes. With no love with no concern. I started to hyper ventilate and he walked away. He said he was sorry but I am still in so much pain from the lack of concern on his end. I woke up with another heavy chest from all the anxiety attacks and I have had 2 more attacks today. The physical pain in my chest hurts so bad. The emotional pain hurts even worse.
How can two people move past all the hurt and damage that has been caused. How do I forget the words that were said and the accusations and the names? How do I overlook all this? He said I should be able to because this has never happened. We have never fought like this. We have had that marriage that everyone envied so the past perfect 8 years should out weigh the bad 2 months. But how? Am I the weird one that can’t let go? I’m so afraid I am going to loose the love of my life, my best friend, my soul mate all because he can’t understand how badly I feel and that I can’t just blink away the pain like he can. :(. All I can do is pray and put on a fake smile and right now that doesn’t seem to even be enough