Since this whole depression thing has come out of the closet things have been hard in my marriage. My husband has been working overtime to make me feel special but I can’t help but feel that it’s out of obligation and that he is doing it because he has to… Crazy huh.
I noticed he was talking to a girl from the past that I believed he had a crush on and I went crazy. My jealousy took over and I couldn’t control it. He was also texting a female client from work and she had sent him pictures of herself to him… Not sexual, just some of her and her family and dog and one of just her. To me she was flirting. And despite what he says I still feel she was. I don’t think a woman would send photos of just herself to another man. Especially when he is married if she wasn’t flirting.
So when he told me this I was upset. I couldn’t help but connect the dots in my head… New girls on Facebook, this crazy client home wrecker, he wants to go to the gym, and he hasn’t been as public on Facebook about me as he use to. So in my crazy mind I connect the dots and it paints a picture that he wants to leave me.
So after lots of conversations and crying we are ok again.. I hope. He doesn’t want to leave. I’m just beyond insecure and I need to work on that. Which I will… Some how… But I was talking to my mom about it and she said something to me which lead me to write this…. And I would like to ask that you comment and tell me your opinion..
She said that if I wanted to keep him happy I needed to be the woman he fell in love with when we were 19. I need to be the carefree, fun, outgoing, up for anything, spontaneous woman… Well girl I was when we met. But I don’t know how to have fun anymore. Or how to be carefree. Or how to just 100% relax. I am so wrapped up in worrying about everything that can go wrong or that could possibly happen or who’s judging me that I don’t know how to do anything else. I’m so beyond insecure… Even more then I can explain. And I don’t know how to just be young and have a good time unless its in our room with no kids and no one I feel is judging me. And being told the only way to fix us is to change scares me. I don’t know how.
So here is the question.. Can u change yourself to be who you want to be? Can u be more like you were when your married your loved one? Can you work through your insecurities and be a “carefree teenager” again? Can I be 19 again? If so how do you juggle being happy in love and carefree and being a mom?